A romantic first date must be well thought of and properly planned, so there won’t be any nasty surprises during the evening. As the male counterpart of the equation, the responsibility of arranging things and making the important decisions falls on your shoulders.The importance of a good plan
the date, but you do want to know her preferences. It's a good idea to ask her if she had something in mind. Be flexible, have a few options available and go over them with her in advance, so she feels like she had a say. Most women will admit that they want to be swept off their feet on a first date and that means that they want to enjoy the man's company without having to make the major decisions.
Consider any common interests and plan an activity that you would both enjoy. You can start by reading over the arts/culture section of your local news sites or local papers for fun date ideas. Remember that if a location or activity is boring, the burden falls on you to entertain her and keep the conversation going. If neither of you are into art, chances are that ceramic exhibit at the gallery downtown will have you both bored to tears.
Women love eccentric ideas and like to do things they haven’t done before- as long as you don’t get them out of their comfort zones. Don’t try to impress her by taking her to do bungee-jumping or rock climbing, unless you know specifically she’s into all that. Avoid risky places if you have no idea about your partner’s preferences. Think of activities that are fun and exciting, but don’t go over the comfort line.
Don’t go to see any shows, unless you’re planning to go somewhere else from there, like a dinner restaurant or a place where you can talk and get to know each other. You’ll get her entertained and you’ll get to collect the fruit of your hard work in a nice setting.
How to Choose the Perfect Restaurant
Choosing the right setting for your game is like walking a tightrope. It's a balancing act, tipping too far in one direction can be disastrous. You might think that you should go with something super fancy - wrong! Super fancy will freak her out. It will seem like you are trying too hard to impress her, have an ulterior motive, or compensating for some obvious flaw in your personality. Skip those places with over-attentive waiters and $$$$ plates - unless you have a very, very good reason for it. When picking the right restaurant - it's not about the money, it's about the experience. She's dating you, not the restaurant.
On the other side, cheap isn’t the way to go wither. Avoid chain restaurants that have no personality and go for a neat-looking cozy place, so that your partner feels you put a lot of thought into choosing the place so that the date goes perfectly. Surely there is a hip and trendy restaurant in your town, where you can enjoy a nice meal and feel comfortable also, without paying half your salary for two courses. If you don’t know any good restaurants, pick out a new one that matches the description. Read reviews about it or access their website before making reservations, so that you don’t have any nasty surprises when you get there and when the bill arrives. Also, don’t engage in culinary experiments the first time you get there, because your date might be going on the drain because of your weak stomach.
Definitely avoid noisy places, if you don’t want to sabotage your date. Check the internet for reviews, because people often include this information when they write about a bar or restaurant. You should be able to sustain a conversation during your date and to get to know each other, so you must go to a reasonably quiet place.
While you wait for the table, you can drink something at the bar and start a nice conversation. Or you can go the other way around, have dinner in a quiet place and head for a noisier, more trendy place where you can dance and have fun. Whatever is your option, make sure to let her know, as she would need to dress in strict accordance with the place she’s going to. Beside the fact that she has to look good, she also has to feel good about the way she looks like and everybody knows how particular women are about their outfit matching the place and event they’re at.
Well, actually, there is - and that brings us to how you prep yourself for the date.
First impression
It will be a very embarrassing situation to meet up with your date and realize that you are dressed for different occasions. It is important you match the elegance of your date and the efforts you put into this can be told by the way you look like. A good outfit has to be cleaned, ironed, free of wrinkles or tags, without any damages whatsoever. Check yourself in the mirror before leaving the house to spot the potential flaws you overlooked or to check for tags, if it’s a new suit. Your appearance has to be impeccable and believe me, a woman can tell exactly how much trouble you went through to look good.
Hey – don’t forget about body odors. Women will run for the door in an instant. Before putting on your nice new clothes, wash your body and remove all dirt and sweat. If you don’t have time, at least change your underwear. If this is not an option either and you’re going straight from work, pick up some tissues or baby wipes and clean the bad smelling areas of your body in the restaurant’s toilet. Also, don’t exaggerate with the cologne, you’re having dinner for God’s sake. Check all your extremities like ears, nails or shoes for dirt or impurities, you must look perfect for your first date.
Masculine Mens Anti-Aging Face Skin Care Products
The last aspect to consider is the face, but this has to go way before your first date. You should always follow a men’s anti-aging face care treatment, if you want to have a successful date. The perfect face should be clean, fresh and look inviting for others. Your partner must feel the temptation of getting near your face and touch it. Also, if a goodnight kiss is part of your plans, then moreover should you consider the appearance of your face skin.
Your goal is for your face to look clean, fresh, vibriant, and inviting. You want to tempt her to wonder what your skin feels like if she presses her cheek to yours. And if you are hoping for a goodnight kiss, a stubbly tired-looking face is bound to be a road block.
Male Face Skin Care Products For Men
To best way to preserve your skin’s natural balance and to retain as much collagen as it can is to start an intensive maintenance program. Start by cleaning your face with a high-quality men’s cleanser that rubs all the dead cells and dirt but leaves intact the moisture and elasticity. The products found in drugstores or cheap department stores won’t do your face any good, because either they contain a lot of chemicals that strip your face’s moisture, either they use no efficient formula to prevent signs of premature aging. Cheap products are always harmful and it’s best to be avoided.
The best way for your skin to retain collagen and elasticity (key factors in retaining a youthful appearance) is to put your face on the proper maintenance schedule. The first step is to wash your mug with a quality masculine anti-aging face care cleaner that's powerful enough to get rid of the junk on your face, but mild enough so that your skin isn't stripped of moisture. Drug store cleansers and body-washes are either packed with some harmful additives or lack anti-aging active ingredients, and don't do much for your face, even if they're cheap. And, the truth be told, this is probably why.
The second step is about hydrating and moisturizing your skin, while protecting it against natural elements and premature aging. You need to get rid of those wrinkles and fine lines you get from sitting in the sun, wind and other natural elements that affect the appearance and overall balance of your skin. You can stop that and solve these problems with proper men’s anti-aging face care products that are both efficient and gentle with your sensitive skin.
Finally, after the cleanser and intensive treatment, it’s time to apply a protector to complete the face care program. The protector keeps the moisture of your skin and gives your face a fresh and clean look throughout the day. Exactly like the other products, a quality men’s anti-aging face care protector takes out all the dirt and seals in the natural moisture, maintaining the collagen level and elasticity. Quality protectors don’t use chemicals or other additives to ensure protection, they contain only natural ingredients and essential oils that penetrate your skin easily and efficiently.
Once your face is looking good, it's back to preparing for the first date.
Ready for Date Night
You can see the first date exactly like a job interview, because the same criteria goes for both situations. You need to look confident about yourself if you want to convince your partner you are really a catch; you need to be optimistic and in a good mood, if you want to see her happy and enjoying your company. That’s why you need to rest or preserve your energy before the actual date so take a nap or drink some coffee before showing up.
If you want to be a total gentleman, offer to come pick her up. If she doesn’t want to, given the fact that it’s your first date, comply with her terms. Be at the restaurant on time and bring something like season flowers or a small box of chocolates. Every woman appreciates a romantic gift like this. Don’t smoke before you get there, because you’ll stink like hell and you’ll get disqualified in seconds.
A heartfelt compliment is a nice way to break the ice. Tell her that she looks beautiful, but keep the comments appropriate. You barely know each other! Don't talk about her legs or, ahem, specific parts of her body. She knows you're going to check her out, but do it discreetly. Don't leer or look creepy. You'd think men would know by now, but a guy I know nearly got slapped on a first date. And after he told me what he said, he deserved it!
When you get to the restaurant, either use valet parking, or remember where you parked - write
it down, or ask her to help you remember. Don't think about "winging it" later, because if you are
going in circles in the parking lot, you'll look clueless. Finally, open the door and pull out the chair for her - you're being sweet, not anti-feminist!
At the Restaurant/Conversation Starters
When you check the menus, you can suggest some items for her, if you know what their name means, bur don’t go ordering for her. She might like it to see you informed and strong, but as far as controlling her is concerned, she won’t like it a bit.
Don’t check out any other skirts while sitting in front of her. She needs to be your focus, at least those couple of hours and you don’t want to make her feel used or embarrassed by your liberal behavior. Avoid speaking on the phone or checking your mails while she sits at the table. You’re on a date, you must do all you can to entertain your company and to have a lovely time, if you’re interested enough in that person.
Finding conversation topics is hard enough, alright. You need to establish some kind of common ground- latest movies, art openings, exhibitions, etc. Do some research at home, before going out and open up wide subjects, so she can take it from there.
If she wants to hear about your past dating experiences, be open and don’t get emotional. Talk about your ex-girlfriend with respect and in a casual manner, even if you ended things in a bad way. Ask her about her dating experiences and then move on to some other topic.
On that note, check your emotional baggage before you leave the house. The first date is not the night to talk about your cheating or alcoholic ex, manic depressive parents and troubled childhood. You shouldn't be bogus, but you can save these topics for later dates when it looks like you're growing closer together. First impressions count and you don't want her to identify you with negativity on your first outing.
Don’t freak out if you experience at some point some awkward pauses in the conversation. Things move up slowly in the beginning because each of you looks for his words carefully and this might not render fructuous dialogs. When referring to your work and professional experience, don’t lie, but try to look passionate about what you do and interested in advancing even more and accruing more knowledge and experience. Try to make subtle allusions to what money you make, but subtle I say. Don’t go over the arrogant side, she wants to see confidence, not perkiness.
During the course of dinner, remember to give her a chance to talk about herself and ask you questions. When it's your turn, ask questions that require answers that aren't a simple yes or no. For example, her career goals, or why she enjoys a certain genre in music. Think of the conversation in percentages. If you can manage to split the conversation 50/50, that would be ideal. If not, strive for at least 60/40, 60% about yourself - because you asked her out, so it's ok to take the lead here, and 40% about her.
Oh, and don’t exaggerate with the alcohol. You need to remain sober if you want to be able to drive her home, as you promised her.
Body Language- Essential on a First Date
Is she interacting with you a lot? Is she touching you and leaning towards you in search for a longer touch? If she laughs a lot and seems to have a good time, these are all great proofs that she really likes you and she’s very interested in spending more time with you. If, on the other hand, she looks away in the distance and plays a lot with the objects on the table, she’s other displeased with something or she really doesn’t like you.
If she goes to the ladies room once during the evening, that’s natural; if she goes to the bathroom every ten minutes, she either has bladder problems, or she really wants to get away from you. If she spots a friend to some other table and spends half an hour talking to him, you can really kiss that second date you were already talking about goodbye.
A date is a meeting of ideas and feelings and the partners must feel relaxed and casual about their encounter. You are not supposed to strive to bring the conversation to a neutral level or to keep her entertained all night long- is she plays hard to get for a long time, maybe you can think of better ways to waste your energy on.
If something happens unexpectedly during the date - like a spilled glass of wine or an over-cooked steak, laugh it off and don't make a fuss. If you're rude to the wait staff, or come across as irritable or petty, she's likely to end the evening quickly, in fact, she may not even sit through dessert! Likewise, if someone cuts you off while you're behind the wheel, let it go. Road rage is a major deal breaker and you will come across aggressive and wacko.
Finally, always pay for the date even if it didn't work out, be a gentleman - you asked her out. Be careful with cigarettes, alcohol and coffees during the evening, because they leave a strong aftertaste, so drink water to wash it down and pop a mint, if you're looking for a good night kiss.
Saying Goodnight and What To Do Next
If you liked spending time with her, tell this straightforward and without hesitation. Honesty is a very precious asset and she will admire you for the courage. Exchange numbers and call her in a day or two, if you are supposed to make the first call. It is ok to call her, as long as you don’t overreact and leave her insistent messages and voicemails by the next morning.
Women appreciate the fact that you don’t forget to call them a day or two after the date. She’s not going to start making wedding plans as soon as you make the first call. But you need to point out exactly the reason for you calling her. It’s good to state things clearly and avoid leaving space for further interpretations. Tell her again about the blast you have and that you want to repeat that experience. Now don’t get too pushy and insistent and keep your status until you get to know each other and learn more about the other’s preferences. Meet her again on a second date and pick things from there.
And what about the first kiss? Check out my next article on Should You Kiss or Hug After the First Date. Generally, a hug and a quick kiss on the cheek is a nice way to end an evening that went well. It's not too forward, so long as she appears comfortable. If you didn't feel the chemistry, that's fine. Don't make any promises - and you must resist the temptation to tell her that you will call her, when your gut dreads it. You want her to remember you as a masculine man and a true gentleman, not a wimpy lying dirt-bag. Simply thank her for a nice evening and say goodnight.
Now that you have all this information, it’s time to go on that first date and rock her world.
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